The consumer culture, in unholy alliance with the media, has spoon-fed us the idea that marriage is just an extended honeymoon with better furniture. In reality, marriage is about responsibilities. It’s about sharing each other’s lives and nudging each other toward being better humans—sometimes gently, sometimes with the force of a cricket bat to the ego.
Marriage in India: The Horror Story No Bollywood Film Warned You About
Someone once said, “Marriage has nothing to do with romance.” They were right. In fact, if romance is a bird, marriage is the closed window it smashes into, followed by a very awkward silence.
For years, Bollywood and advertising have pumped our heads full of fairy tales: marry the one you love, life will be a forever honeymoon, and you’ll dance in the rain without catching flu. But here’s the ugly truth—marriage is less about holding hands and more about holding a plumber’s number because the geyser died at 6 a.m.
I know it seems alarming, but divorce among Indians is no longer considered taboo. The situation has altered considerably over the past ten years due to a variety of factors, one of which is the lopsided laws against married men. To those who are unaware of the ground realities, India's divorce rate is rising and is among the highest in the world.
The Bollywood Trap for Men
Boys grow up thinking they must be part Shah Rukh Khan, part Salman Khan, and part Swiss Bank account. The movies convince them that being a good husband means always being romantic, rich, and patient enough to listen to long emotional speeches about curtains.
Reality check: marriage is 90% responsibility, 9% compromise, and 1% deciding where to order food from without starting World War III.
Though there are laws in place to protect married women from domestic violence abuse in India, no equivalent law exists to protect married males. According to statistics, they are frequently harassed, assaulted, and even killed by their wives/intimate partners. The saddest thing is that they have no place to report physical abuse.
When Good Men End Badly
We’ve seen it—AI engineers, HR managers, Merchant Navy officers… men with brilliant careers, reduced to emotional rubble because they married the wrong person.
Men's abuse and husband murders are no longer a rarity; they are widespread and prevalent in all segments of society.
Men, this is not a decision to make casually or under family pressure. You are not a marriage lottery ticket. You are a human being with mental and physical health worth protecting.
Romance Is Temporary—Character Is Permanent
Pre-marriage communication isn’t foolproof, but it’s your best weapon. Smile when you hear “I love you,” but don’t believe it like a WhatsApp forward. Instead, watch and observe:
- How do they behave when angry?
- How do they handle disagreement—calm talk or emotional nuclear war?
- What are their views on morality, crime, and justice?
- Do they care about values, or only about vibes?
- How do they treat their own family and friends?
Talk. Discuss. Debate. Disagree. Repeat. You’re not just looking for someone to share Netflix with—you’re looking for someone who won’t turn your life into a psychological horror series.
Remember, even government data reveals that Indian women are increasingly abusing laws to settle disagreements. This is not limited to married women exclusively. There are blatant misuse of laws that ladies employ to extort money or achieve other ulterior goals.
The Harsh Truth
Social media has weaponized “perfect couple” photos to make normal relationships feel broken. Patience has evaporated, expectations have exploded, and laws plus financial pressure have made men extra cautious.
Marriage can still be beautiful, yes—but only when it’s chosen wisely, not out of pressure, fear of missing out, or because “shaadi ka season chal raha hai.”
Men, remember: choosing a life partner isn’t about finding your “forever love story.” It’s about avoiding a perfectly avoidable tragedy.
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